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Tackling #harassment and #stalking, both online and offline, is going to be a huge endeavior. The new laws introduced in some countries, like Switzerland, that make these behaviors illegal are a step in the right direction, but the aim isn't to fill jails with #harassers and #stalkers. The aim is to really help educate everyone from 1 to 100 years old about the stakes at play here and how to establish group rules that make it much more difficults for these behaviors to emerge in the first place.

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And by strong response, I don't mean some kind of manhunt against #stalkers or #harassers. That could momentarily feel satisfying, but on a larger ethical and social scale, it is just throwing the table upside down and turning perpetrators into victims. What must be targetted is the behavior of #harrassing and #stalking and the circumstances that trigger them and make them possible. We should learn all to recognize the cues that can signal them and act as a group to cut the issue at its roots.

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(11/N) A fourth category of adversaries:

🫳 Intruders

#Intruders want to ignore your #boundaries at will, and their related actions to be unrestricted and without repercussions, for as long as possible. Additionally, satisfaction might be derived from any ineffective responses to their actions.

Controlling your assets at will, and having unrestricted access to them is their goal. Some are fantasizing about a relationship with you that would somehow entitle them to it. Sometimes, their actions include damaging, or destruction of, your assets, to inflict suffering upon you, or for revenge, or to gain notoriety.

This is a wide category that includes attention-getters; #narcissists and #stalkers; abusive, vengeful and jealous people; starstruck individuals seeking #parasocial interaction; thrill seekers; script kiddies; "OSINT" wannabees; swatters; vandals; and sometimes even potential employers.

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mastodon.de/@tuxwise/113503228

MastodonDEtuxwise (@tuxwise@mastodon.de)(1/N) With more challenging times ahead, the #4D​s will become more important, too: ✋ **Defend** your boundaries: know what matters to you, and properly safeguard it – instead of being an alert-driven option tinkerer. 🪪 **Define** yourself: use multiple identities that focus on a single purpose each – instead of having everything you do, have and think linked back directly to you. 👑 **Decide** like a sovereign: get to know your needs, and what meets them best – instead of sacrificing them to the interests of others. 🌐 **Dwell** the space: seek community, practice solidarity and citizenship – instead of being beaten a little later than others, in a glorious bunker. In the future, I'll post a few ideas and suggestions based on the 4Ds. BTW, I have dropped the adjective "#digital" from my vocabulary. There is no more separate "digital sphere" or "cyberspace" that wasn't part of our everyday lives. #privacy #security #anonymity

#Bumble and #Hinge allowed #stalkers to pinpoint users’ #locations down to 2m.
Analyzed 15 popular #dating #apps, #Badoo, Bumble, #Grindr, #happn, Hinge and #Hily all had same #vulnerability that a malicious user identify near-exact #location of another user, according to researchers.
To pinpoint exact location of user, researchers used a novel technique they call “oracle trilateration.” This creates three circles, which intersect at the point where the target is located.
techcrunch.com/2024/07/31/bumb

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Aside: As a reasonably successful musician I’ve had a lot of ‘interesting’ mails and phone calls over the years. Sometimes it was funny (“I am in Pearl Jam and my mother will get you a green card”).
But other times “I am outside your house now I can see you in the window”. I should write these up one day. #stalkers #crazy #music

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