Here's a truth for you -- especially if you haven't hit your 40s yet, maybe not even your 30s.
The truth is this:
*Nobody* knows what the fuck they're doing.
If someone seems like they have their shit together, either they are presenting you with a completely false front, or they are in a season of The Total Occasional Fluke of Everything Apparently Going Right and Coming Together.
But what are we really doing? Nobody knows. WE'RE ALL JUST DOING WHAT WE CAN WITH THE TOOLS WE HAVE AT THE TIME.
I'm "over 50" and have no idea what I'm doing.
@HCBunny I'll hit 47 soon and am finally IN MY CORE figuring out that I have nothing figured out.
Paid lip service to the concept for a good decade before I had to admit it was just lip service.