this is one reason the term should always have been “queer” — the alphabet soup of LGB…+ aspires to be inclusive and comforting but mostly only divides
yes, some people are discomfited by “queer” but its history as a slur actually helps make the point that it’s not any one specific difference that marks you as a target for bullying: bullies will fix on **any** difference as a target for their disgust and fear and hate