Things you'd hope a well-educated (nuclear Physics, no less) 40+yo alleged adult would know:
- objects of similar shape and size go together.
- in an extendable platform, you put things that are heavier near the support, not at the furthest end. Angular momentum, materials, etc.
- if you put small things in all the big compartments, leaving only small compartments available, where the fuck are you gonna put big things that still need to be put there?
- if you do something wrong, you are doing nobody any favors, you are just doubling workload, because now I have to un-do the dumb stuff, and re-do everything, but harder than simply doing it right the first time.
/rant
In every household, there are only two types of people.
Those who load a dishwasher and/or store things into cupboards and other spaces in a sensible manner, so it all fits, in a safer, orderly way, which means you can find every later, without risking avalanches of breakable objects....
and...
Someone who sees the world through the eyes of a racoon on meth.
TLDR
Send rum.
@faraiwe 40 yo, meth-addled racoon (with a physics degree) here to say...I feel very seen.
I also want to say I completely understand how frustrating that must be and hope your living partner makes the effort to do better.