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You know the most common excuse I hear, from people I know, who won't leave Facebook or Instagram is: All my family & friends are there. If I leave, I lose touch with them.
I have often questioned how mass social media has actually helped to degrade communication & lower our quality of relationships more than enhanced/benefited. People don't communicate much in slow time or offline much anymore. I've seen for myself how being digitally dependent for social connections has harmed families & social circles & our communities as a whole. I have questioned myself & others on how strong your relationships truly are if all communication ceases once you personally choose to leave popular social media platforms.
This is one of a few reasons that I try my best to keep doing offline, slow communication & relationships building work & not be too digitally dependent on any online medium for my human connections.
@PhoenixSerenity Well-said.
I hear the same 99.9% of the time. "it's the only way I can stay connected with people" etc. (BS, I say! It is a choice, and it is a detrimental one.)
I experienced, in real time, the precipitous drop in "social" connection when I purposefully stepped away from Facebook and Instagram.
Fortunately, two years out now, some people whom I cherish have started realizing that I'm not around there, and are reaching out in other ways.
Those are real friends.
I love your term "slow time"!
I am going to start including it in my communications with people.
Hey, do you want to go hang out in slow time? 
@arisummerland I try to make at least one slow time friend date every week. Either by video call, phone chat, offline hangout or something else that suits both parties. Doing this regularly has strengthened my connections with others.
I believe at least 2 friends are going to finally ditch FB after 15 years due to the trans censorship policies. I really hope they don't stay & find out how much worse FB can sink.
@PhoenixSerenity I love that you make time for this. I do my best, and I absolutely do need to see people in person sometimes. It can be a little overwhelming if it's not just one on one. But I do have friends who answer the call when I need a little people time. I feel very lucky.
@arisummerland Friend is more of a verb than a noun to me. Genuine, quality friendships are valuable to me & worth making the time to regularly invest in. I don't really do passive relationships. I make it a priority to put in consistent deposits into my kindred spirits bank.