I'm sorry for the Fosstodon drama. Fosstodon was my second fedi server and there I had a lot of FOSS fun: nice people, good moderators, good topics. I left when my radicalized vision of how world was changing, also thanks to digital/software/tech stuff/hype, became too much abstracted from the "yes but huh, I do not care, any foss is good and that's all" vibe of the instance. But hey, it was me.
The Fosstodon story is another example of how our expectations of fedi aren't aligned with reality. It's not a matter of moderators, server policies, who's federated with whom. It's simply that when a group of people grows beyond a certain number (I think it's in the hundreds not in the thousands), more drama ensues and more often jerks prevail.
In short: it's not the medium, it's the people. Or people dynamics, if you want to feel less harsh. Hidden behind their keyboards, people are jerks when they have the chance. Every bar, getting bigger and bigger, is on the verge to become a jerks bar and maybe then a nazi bar. It just needs someone to become a catalyst for stupidity.
The difference between fedi and corpo social networks is that fedi doesn't want drama: it's divisive and burns moderators out. Corpo socials crave drama because it's engagement. And there are no moderators or nice corpo people to protect.
That's why any debate about "how can fedi win?" makes no sense, for me. If winning is copying the techbros and aiming to get bigger, we have ample proof that bigger instances will gradually become a mess of spam, jerks, bots, misinfo and drama and then - if below a critical self-sustainable mass - collapse. Instances even bigger, will stay the mess they've become. Thinking "oh but this time it's different, we're different" is naive.
In real life, we're praising the beauty of local communities and of communities of interest, and the value of real interactions in smaller groups. This is also a value fedi should underline: bigger is not better, smaller has much more appeal. But, again, it's me.
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