My partner has undiag ADHD and anxiety and we have been talking through experiences both so I (AuDHD) can better understand his experience and also verbalize my own (as in, oh, I would be able to make accommodations if this was someone else, so why don't I accommodate for myself?)
https://neurodivergentinsights.com/autistic-anxiety/
We are discussing this article, like what is the difference between being anxious, autistic anxiety, being overwhelmed, or experiencing dread... etc.
> Dr. Jonathan Dalton discusses the distinction between dread and anxiety. Anxiety typically involves worries about what might happen, such as fretting over how you will be perceived at a social event or what might or might not occur there. In contrast, dread is about the certainty of discomfort, such as knowing an event will be overstimulating and involve extensive small talk.