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Hubs has been on a business trip for the last couple of days, and I've been staying alone for basically the first time ever. I've found myself going feral with no supervision, staying up very late, only putting on clothes when absolutely necessary, debating about whether shaving my legs is necessary, just eating meals that consist of random things I find. I've always been amused at my Gran who has lived a life exactly how she's pleased for so long, that her schedule is hilarious. Once on vacation with her, she got up to have Midnight Salad, and she was just overall frustrated that we were trying to sleep instead of watching 2 am Jeopardy. I guess, if left to my own devices, I'm more like her than I thought.
@RickiTarr I miss my feral days. I lived alone for a very long time before getting married, and while I am overall happy with being married, I really miss just setting my own structure rather than having things externally dictated.
A friend of mine called that "living the life of a cat". Who wouldn't want that?
@RickiTarr This sounds amazing. I was thinking recently about how when the kids have moved out I might take a few weeks off work and just go feral, staying up late, daydrinking, slumming in my PJs, whatever 
@RickiTarr your gran sounds like she has the perfect life. An absolutely wild woman life, and if she were thrown to the wolves she would probably come back leading the pack!
@RickiTarr Before we had a child, my Russian husband used to periodically visit his family in Moscow for 2-3 weeks at a time. Like you, I became completely feral when he was away. I ate whenever and whatever I wanted, there were no set meal times. I would vacuum at midnight if I felt like it. I would stay up all night reading. IT WAS FANTASTIC! Enjoy your sweet solitude while it lasts. 
@suzdal92 Now I'm so curious who we all become in solitude.
@RickiTarr The best and most authentic versions of ourselves is my theory. 
@suzdal92 @RickiTarr I totally go feral when alone. Which I realized during the early days of Covid. Spouse is a doctor & we spent those first few months apart as he was worried about me getting sick.
My sleep/wake cycle, dressing & eating habits all fell apart. It wasn't bad - just different.
@RickiTarr @suzdal92 I 100% become my dad, which means feral AF as well. 
You are a grown up.
You could go out and buy a cheese cake and eat it for no other reason than you want to.
@RickiTarr I'm a 58-year old empty nester and my work is remote freelance stuff. I LOVE living alone on my own schedule - freedom to be with ppl when I want and not when I don't, act on a whim to go out for hours bc it's sunny or eat dinner at 11 am bc I'm hungry. Also, it is never, ever necessary to shave your legs or any other body part. I live a happily hairy life, and most ppl I've dated/lived with preferred it bc it's normal/natural and jeez so much easier to never think about it.
@RickiTarr When I lived alone, sometimes the only clothes I would put on for days would be an apron when I was cooking.
@Meowthias @RickiTarr I think the 19th century has brainwashed humanity into believing that the default is being clothed , when not very long ago people would only wear clothes if they were cold.
Nowadays, people even put clothes on to go swimming and that is a very recent development. In Portobello in the early 20th century there are letters to the paper protesting at the number of people bathing in the sea naked.
@RickiTarr Absolutely the same for me - if my hubby isn't here trying to sleep, I'm up all hours playing games, watching films and generally being a total slob. Although I can't decide if it's just the novelty of it I'm enjoying, or if this is actually how I would exist without him around. 
@RickiTarr I potter around a lot more when I'm on my own. My body clock doesn't let me get away with vacuuming at 2am (I'd be comatose), but I definitely sleep a bit later. I do odd bits of cleaning that I wouldn't ordinarily bother with, like cleaning the floor skirting (oddly Zen) or picking the weeds out of the walkways. I'm kinda cold-blooded so I keep my clothes on!
@RickiTarr I've been there, but during COVID I basically went in the entire opposite direction - suddenly started eating healthy, went to bed early, fixed up the odd corner of my apartment & so on... some of it even stuck
@RickiTarr oh I'm jealous right now.
@RickiTarr
Haha! Just enjoy that freedom and see how it feels for you.
Exactly the life of the (truly) retired.
Social expectations lose importance as time goes on.
@RickiTarr
Clothes and shaving are both over-rated. Sounds like your gran had a good thing going on.
@RickiTarr ha. I turn completely feral also. Mango pulp out of a can. All day pajamas. Add new dishes to the dishwasher (don’t take out the clean ones) and just live like a savage generally. .
@nomdeb I literally ate a whole mango for breakfast yesterday lol
Farah 
@RickiTarr Go you! Live a little. Down with the traditional schedules!!
@RickiTarr I've been feral for almost three years. There came a tipping point where instead of behaving like I was in The Truman Show I suddenly realised that I could do what the fuck I wanted, when I wanted. Scarily liberating then and now it is an absolute joy. Tonight I am going to jump straight into my jimmy-jams, put on some top tunes and drink vodka in bed whilst reading the latest Jeff Vandermeer novel. If the sky is clear I may shamble drunkenly outside later to try an catch the Aurora!
@RickiTarr
I love feral sleep schedules.
When left to do its own thing, mine just slowly rotates on a 26-28 hour cycle.
Unfortunately, right now I'm having to force it to stick to a psuedo-early-bird schedule, and it's exhausting.
@RickiTarr welcome to “queer time”.
@RickiTarr I've lived by myself for many years, but keep to schedules and systems. My autistic brain automatically adds structure to every day.
@RolloTreadway I think I would have to eventually, I probably need structure to not be too gross
@RickiTarr @RolloTreadway My spouse is away for two weeks, and I’ve only recently cut back on being feral. She’s due back Wednesday and I need to make things presentable instead of the hermit shack it currently is.
@DarkAthena @RolloTreadway I just went through a tidied the house lol
@RickiTarr @RolloTreadway I’ve still got woodworking supplies everywhere but the dishes and laundry are under control.
@RickiTarr Tom’s also away for a couple of nights, he’ll be home about this time tomorrow. I only go marginally feral in that I get a lot of things out to use and then don’t put them away again. I’m resistant to emptying the dishwasher, which is usually his job, and to opening and closing the curtains
Nothing ruins a chore spree like going to empty the dishwasher and finding dirty or grainy dishes that need to be processed. They now need a new place to live while they await reprocessing.
I would rather hand wash dishes for an hour then risk the disappointment.
@RickiTarr I have several pairs of pyjamas - even though I never wear pyjamas for sleeping, as I prefer a nightie, or nothing. No, they are daytime/house pyjamas. Once I'm back home for the day and nobody is expected to come over, why keep street clothes on?
@beecycling SAME LOL I had lot of pajamas for someone who rarely sleeps in them
@beecycling @RickiTarr Someone, years ago on the twit platform, said that anyone who isn't in their pajamas within 10 minutes of getting home lacks ambition. Words of wisdom to live by.
@RickiTarr
My relationship would probably surprise you. I have been doing this for 3 years. I have my own apartment out of state.
@RickiTarr Va was away for two weeks in Mexico. I did all of that, plus drank when I wanted to, everything except not-quite-feral sleep. I have Tue/Thur meetings at 8:30 am. Truly feral sleep for me would be a slowly rotating 26-hour schedule. I have had that, back in the day, but it's hard when you have a job with hard-wired meetings, and hard when you have a noisy family, too.
@GeePawHill I used to work a job that involved me getting up before 5 am, it took me years to stop doing it automatically.
@RickiTarr @GeePawHill I live on the west coast, work east coast hours. ….yeah…..
@FeloniousPunk @RickiTarr @GeePawHill NOPE NOPE NOPE.
When I’m not traveling, I get up whenever I want, oh, nope, no need for clothing aside from underoos, no alarms and no surprises… anything before 0800 can fuck off.
@RickiTarr At student review time, I jiggle my schedule a couple of days before to bring me around so I can stay up all night. First one starts at 2 am, last one ends at noon. I'll have a beer and watch their demo, after advising them that it's 2 o'clock in the morning where I am.
The thing is? It's one of my favorite parts of the job, watching the students do their demos.
@GeePawHill @RickiTarr as an OU student in the 70s/early 80s the middle of the night was when the broadcasts were. Great when I got a radio with built in tape recorder then rented a VHS
@RickiTarr y’all weird! If my wife’s away I find I get all nerdy about cleaning the house and go to bed super early 
@clanger9 That’s the thing, you can do it any way you want
@RickiTarr your gran sounds awesome
@RickiTarr I very much go feral, then have to run around tidying before OH gets back.
@RickiTarr this is exactly what I'm like without a schedule. I really miss being a night owl, but my spouse is working days, and I'd rather see them more than be feral and never see them
@RickiTarr I love the idea of Midnight Salad though
@RickiTarr Speaking as someone who's spent most of his life alone it's quite the opposite for me. I have fairly strict routines since I don't have anyone to adjust to and decide things with. I've been waaay more relaxed and not as picky with things during the times when I've had someone to live with. I probably would've guessed that that initial thing is more of a "oh shit, one of the biggest parts of my daily life isn't here, what do I do with myself?" chock more than it being a sign who we really are when we are by ourselves in the long run. But maybe it's just me though, I don't know.
I heard from a youth that this foraging approach to an afternoon repast is a "girl dinner"... Left to my own devices I'm going to SEED, personally.
http://girl-dinner.urbanup.com/17853003
Also, noteworthy, "charcuterie core" exists as a concept.
@RickiTarr This reads like my twenties. I miss being able to set my own schedule and eating habits. Kids, man. They want to eat so regularly.
It's the most luxurious life imaginable.
I can't not shave my legs every time I shower, which is every day. I mean not to but it just happens. It's like my brain has no control over that once the water starts pouring out of the showerhead
@DoNotPunchDown I probably shave mine every 3 days
Much smarter and better for your skin!
This is basically my life now and I am married, this is how we are together and I'm kind of shocked reading here that this seems to be unusual.